Stop Self-Development, Start Self-Exploration

Can we just stop this ongoing business of self- development? I know it feels motivating to see some post of inspiration, achievements, growth? But is it worthy? How impactful the course of self-development is? How instantly this increases our daily productivity? For instance, a person wasn’t confident, he did some course of developing confidence, and now he is proudly saying that the self-development courses built up his confidence. He could go to the stage and deliver a brilliant speech. It brought something in him, which wasn’t there. It gave him confidence, the power to know himself, and determine right and wrong. The basic question is, ‘could we have the power to know self just by joining some self-development courses?’ Isn’t there any cost-effective way?

From a very young age, people start rushing to self-development classes. They want to learn the art of living and live life in the best possible way. The trainers/coach/mentors try their best to tell you the meanings of values, ethics, virtues, moral life, etc. You try to implement those things in your life, and you start living by the examples of great leaders. Indeed, it’s a very beneficial thing. Millions of motivational book-copies get sold for helping us to achieve self-development, thousands of self-development classes could be found in the city, hundreds of people around us would guide us to follow the virtues of life. Still, the suicide rate is increasing, people are facing depression, fights and arguments are turning never-ending, happiness is fading away, and so on.

I am sure we all have done the course on self-development at some point in our life. Still, there is a time when we feel low, unhappy, and tied in chains of problems. Problems are in everybody’s life. We have to suffer and that’s the ultimate truth, as said by Buddha. But, we all should be having our different perspectives towards the problems. How these different perspectives are generated? Is it by following the method of self-development? No, self-development has a limited role in this. The real power is in self-exploration. When you discover yourself, know yourself, and when you are aware of yourself. Then, no problems could make you low and unhappy. You achieve real power through the methods of self-exploration. 

Self-exploration doesn’t cover you by some unnatural stuff which wasn’t in you. It helps you take out the real stuffs within you. When you analyze the real hidden part of yourself, you act very naturally towards the problems of the world. You aren’t afraid of problems, but you feel courageous to deal with it. Many would say that self-development includes self-exploration. But, I would prefer a reverse. When you explore yourself, know yourself, and then only you could start developing yourself. It’s a very deep philosophy. It is realized by many saints and mystics. They know the power of self-exploration by digging deeper within the self. They explore self, eliminate the negative factors, and take out positive things. They replace negative things(any wrong beliefs, attitudes, feelings) with other positive things. And that’s the true self-development which could occur in a being. So, next time, you join some self-development course and invest huge money unnecessarily. Just keep in mind to explore yourself first.

Self-development is a medicine to heal your problems. But, self-exploration is a permanent remedy to your problems. The method to explore self is to take out the creative force from within. Try doing something which you are interested in real. Join dance class, music class, art class, and identify the creative force within. When you know your field of deep interest, then you could explore yourself, and you could develop yourself. After exploring yourself well, you become so natural that life turns easy and smooth to you. Self-development is not the best way of facing the truth. The best is Self-exploration that has only been able to help you become aware of reality and face it naturally.

Responses

  1. devina prasad Avatar

    Deep. Only if everyone could start exploring themselves and then do some self invest, self-development will become so much easy and effective.

    1. Madhvi Avatar

      Yeah. You got it right. It’s an urgent need to know self.

  2. betterwithdan Avatar

    I like it. Development suggests a goal to be had, exploration suggests more experimentation, trial, and real self understanding.

    1. Madhvi Avatar

      Yes. You’re right. Thanks for adding a new point to it.

  3. Gaurav Arora Avatar

    Every sentence is comprehensible. The whole message is precise and presented in the best manner it could have been.

    1. Madhvi Avatar

      Thank-you. It means a lot. 😊

  4. xia03 Avatar

    interesting, in fact by self exploring you are living your own reality rather than living by the standard of others. I enjoyed reading this.

    1. Madhvi Avatar

      Thank you for your kind words.

  5. tosinososami Avatar

    Honestly I agree so much! Development has a certain pressure to it. I have to be better. Who I am wasn’t enough. Exploring sounds more compassionate, more understanding. Definitely some food for thought here

    1. Madhvi Avatar

      Yes. You said it right. The top need is to enjoy the process rather force it upon us. Thanks for reading.

  6. Gihan Akalanka Avatar

    great article, self-exploration is the way to go 🙂

    1. Madhvi Avatar

      Thank you for your support.

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